Another Year and Deeper…

I spent my birthday weekend in good company, though it was decidedly lower-profile than I am normally accustomed to. This decision was a strange one, but in all truthfulness, I just didn’t feel the need to celebrate for any other reason than for simply being alive day-to-day. It’s a sort of odd introversion lately, wanting to skirt the public eye and any social gatherings even though I also long for them deeply. Some of this might have to do with sheer exhaustion from the workplace, and the queer juxtaposition with diving headlong into extreme occupational focus so I don’t have to deal with any internal issues lingering at the forefront. Or the backfront, for that matter.

Danny and Jeffy are my Truths. I’m blessed with the best people in the world as some of my friends, and they all have mentionable accolades. These two, they’re my Truths. When considering time spent with these boys, a few vital doctrines and manifestoes are instructive to understand the necessity of these evenings locked in learning. I’ve recognized more about myself from their lightning-fast, poignant discourse; artistic excretions of beauty, pain, and bliss; boundless compassion, understanding, and empathy than I have in all my earlier years put together. Every meeting is a reflection, a prophecy and also an animal house.

We subscribe to the following notions:

1) No Coasting. We all settle into well-established patterns of behavior, an abstemious autopilot that pre-determines our pro-actions and reactions in any given circumstances. This must be battered and torn until the wheels fall off and one may no longer glide along merrily. Answers to questions should never come from rote programming; our thoughts and actions should always be alive, in the now, and hyper-aware of the context in which life has taken us. Plug in, do not carry the burden of an unworkable pattern.

2) Live Frosty. Be fresh, lively, adventurous, gracious, keen, deft, open, glib, witty, informed, inquisitive, unpredictable, honest, delighted, artistic, unconventional, REAL. Frosty.

3) Say Yes. Too much time in life is wasted in denial of input and exposure. This portion of our manifesto screams dutifully that music, art, writing, conversation, film, poetry, humor, pain, suffering, disgust, love, exaltation, and friendship all incubate the fetus of a more complete, more wonderful life. We create opportunities to share any and all of these things with each other – through our own eyes, ears, mouths, and thoughts. You cannot say no. There is no time for it, for every YES is an opportunity to be exposed to something that makes you… {insert adjective here}.

4) No Skipping. Everything is described in full. There is always an open forum to say anything, and to say it truthfully. Dear friendships are worth that much, at the very least. The end result is to KNOW each other, so skipping any part of the retelling, of the description, of the feeling, is criminal.

5) Break Your Loop. This ties in with No Coasting. There’s always an automatic formulation of idiosyncrasy, neurosis, truth-stretching, comedy-relief, self-pity, or self-aggrandizement that has been given a comfortable home in repeated conveyance to just about everyone you know. We all do it – the autonomic loop. But it’s old and tired, and every new audience is deserving of a new retelling. Every new mental and emotional process is worthy of a new perspective.

These are the things in which we believe, and I turn to them again on this weekend of my 32nd year – both the manifestoes, and my Truths.

45 Responses to “Another Year and Deeper…”

  1. effrontery Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 3:56 am

    Hear, hear. Today's my birthday as well, so I think I'll take those to heart (if you don't mind some borrowing!)

  2. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 3:59 am

    Of course!
    And I wish you a happy one.

  3. effrontery Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 4:18 am

    Thanks–and the same, a bit belatedly. Hope it's a wonderful year for you!

  4. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:17 am

    I can't believe it took me this long to add you back, and I'm quite sorry. I see your b-day was today, so HAPPY HAPPY. And thanks for the link to my last post; I'm honored.
    You might want to change the link to reflect that particular post, rather than my journal's frontispiece.

  5. kimmaline Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 4:05 am

    Happy Birthday, Darlingest of Darlings. My apologies it's belated. 🙂
    I very much enjoy your Truths.

  6. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:47 pm

    Thank you, Kim.
    Just wait 'til I get my Truths on you.

  7. kimmaline Says:
    May 5th, 2005 at 3:00 pm

    Hmmm…sounds like an experience. But, I need to know how to prepare for something like this…is it more of a combat boot, or stilletto type of occasion? Garters or jeans?
    These are very important questions, you know.

  8. larylich Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 4:15 am

    I hit one of those years around 29, "The year I took no crap". While it can be literating to tell it like it is, it also has it's concequences so be warry. There is a difference between doing the "Best Thing" and the "Right thing".
    None the less, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

  9. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:49 pm

    Re: Amen
    While this is always good advice, I'll make it clear that I stopped taking crap a while back, now. When I say 'Truth', of course, I'm referring to living life For Real, without any pretensions of selfishness, deception, or abridgment.
    Frosty, man.

  10. gingiber Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 4:16 am

    Happy belated birthday to you. I kept thinking about you all day, esp when we were standing on the hill with flaming torches all round but somehow I never made it to a computer to say 'Hi'
    I will mail soon. I have so many thank yous for you 🙂

  11. evils Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 12:02 pm

    kept thinking about you all day … but somehow I never made it to a computer to say 'Hi'
    The Mattski and I were also thinking fondly of you and wishing you well and we're also so very sorry that we weren't able to wish you well at the time. May this be the best year for you yet, and also one in which you come back to these shores? 😉

  12. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:53 pm

    Hiya Suzy! Thanks for the good words and wishes. I'm often thinking about you guys, as well.
    We're indeed planning a trip back to see the whole gang, perhaps sometime during the spring or summer of next year, so keep your eyes open and hide the children!
    Do give Mattie a big hug for me, and one for yourself, of course.

  13. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:51 pm

    Great to hear from you, L. Thanks very much for the kind wishes.
    I'll look forward to your mail when you find the time; as I told Sethly, I know how busy you are – as we all are – so write only when you can. I'd love to hear what you've been up to!

  14. rachel_eurydice Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 5:59 am

    That's great–good words to live by!
    And a happy belated birfday to you!

  15. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:56 pm

    Why, thank you, Rache!
    Great to see you pop your head in here – I hope all is well with you and yours…
    p.s. LOVE the sperm icon. I always knew you were something special. 🙂

  16. agntprovocateur Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 6:43 am

    I shall see you on wednesday, whereby I shall plant you with the proper bday wishes!

  17. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:56 pm

    Looking intently forward to it. It's been a while since we've all been together – and I have BOTH housemates in tow!

  18. agntprovocateur Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:59 pm

    that's wonderful!

  19. avalokita Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 7:20 am

    Happy birthday!!
    You are a very sexy 32!

  20. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:58 pm

    Thanks, A!
    You've always got the good word for me. It keeps me feeling young and precious, and I'm lucky to get such kindness from you.

  21. lady_in_satin Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 7:28 am

    All this simply adds up to "spend time with Rebecca and Ryan."
    "Say yes!"
    Happy birthday, you big, beautiful thing!

  22. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:59 pm

    Um, YES!
    You're a sweetie. When can we get together, then?

  23. lady_in_satin Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 8:28 am

    Saturday, May 14 at 6 p.m. You are invited for dinner and I'll send an invite to Evan and Fonta too.

  24. sharck Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 8:46 am

    Happy Birthday!
    (That's all)

  25. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:59 pm

    That's enough!

  26. vervassal Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 9:01 am

    Happy Birthday!

  27. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:00 am

    Cheers, Soph!
    Love the new icon. 🙂

  28. thistlelurid Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 10:10 am

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  29. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:01 am

    Ah, young Jedi. I see you are learning.

  30. seide Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 10:22 am

    Happy belated Birthday. I'm glad I'm not the only one whose birthdays seem to go in cycles– there will be some with major celebrations and outbursts, and then there's the mellow ones, no less happy, but perhaps more thoughtful or introverted.
    Here's to living frosty, my fellow Taurean.

  31. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:02 am

    Feel the chill, baby.
    Thanks so much for your kind birthday greetings. May I ask what day belongs to you, then?
    *sharpens horns*

  32. seide Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 9:37 am


  33. scotis_man Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 11:31 am

    Happy Birthday, My Friend!

  34. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:02 am

    Cheers, Karsten. Hope to see you soon!

  35. dr_beep Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 12:17 pm

    Happy birthday near or less!

  36. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:03 am

    Oop! Blak! Erp!

  37. dichroicynosure Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 12:34 pm

    off the hamster wheel as the earth turns its 32nd year
    Happiest birthday Darren! Funny how I did this Zodiac meditation yesterday and you were there in the seat two down from mine as clear as day. Felt good to be connected with you in my psychic landscapes absorbing the sun through the grail and sharing it with each other. You are such a vital link in my collection of ether kindred.
    Feel really connected with your expressions here. This manifesto or anti-manifesto is so accurate/inspired/and quotable. Battle the quotidian with your swords of creation!
    I can't help but be envious of your community of loop-breaking jammers and frosty livers.

  38. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:12 am

    Re: off the hamster wheel as the earth turns its 32nd year
    It seems that I have a splendid doppleganger wandering around the furtive alleys of Istanbul…perhaps he's there to remind you…perhaps he's watching over you…regardless, he keeps us in close contact, and for that, I'm thankful.
    Frosty liver, you say? Yes, I believe that my liver is quite frosty from my many nights skulking in the dark pubs of Edinburgh.
    You're part of this community, darling. There's no envy allowed. You're part of it. Just wait 'til we all get together.

  39. Anonymous Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 9:02 pm

    Many happy returns!!
    …of your birthday, and of you, and of freshness to your life. Happy Spring!

  40. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:04 am

    Re: Many happy returns!!
    Hiya, Stranger! Thanks for your wishes. A Happy Spring to you, as well!

  41. no_mans_land Says:
    May 3rd, 2005 at 10:01 pm

    <small>your friends sound delightful. hang on to them.. they're hard to come by.
    the five commandments = words to live by. creatively put and incredibly true. :]
    lastly — happy belated!!</small>

  42. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 12:06 am

    Hey, thanks very much!
    Let me tell you – these guys are incredible. Clearly you know the value of such punk-ass dooder-scooters. They couldn't get rid of me if they tried, and believe me – they've tried.

  43. alison_ella Says:
    May 4th, 2005 at 2:11 am

    I know its late, but Happy birthday anyhoo.
    I have been savin up lots of hugs and kisses for you, hopefully I'll be able to give them to you soon. Until then you will be in my thoughts 🙂 XXX

  44. FunkyPlaid Says:
    May 6th, 2005 at 12:05 am

    You're a sweetheart. I'm going to get you a piggy bank to help your savin', and then I'm going to make one big, motherfucking withdrawal.

  45. alison_ella Says:
    May 6th, 2005 at 7:51 am

    as long as its not the sort of piggy bank you have to smash 🙂
    The monkey is just not the same without you 😉 but soon you'll be saying that about pubs over the pond. See you soon 🙂 XXX

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